I know it’s a lot. Me and my titles. Anyway welcome to your late evening post; chock full of wedding inspiration, clitoral stimulation and inappropriate conversation. Or, Wednesday.
First point of business: I lied about the clitoral stimulation, there will be none of that. I know I’M SORRY.
Second point of business: This shoot Caroline + Jayden Lee of Woodnote Photography sent in? I guarantee you’ve never seen anything quite like it. Ab fab, my loves. Ab. solutely. Fab. ulousiffus.
Third point of business: Honey and I recently dipped into the dog’s college fund to spring for one of those nifty iPads the cool kids are getting these days. And may I tell you, that the way I treat this thing.. you’d think I’d carried it for nine months and given it life. It is my infant child, and I am its helicopter mom. It is my wee behbeh. So thanks to everyone who recommended getting one of these time-sucks; you guys were so right. I am obsessed.
However. We can’t take it anywhere outside the apartment – the whole point of the purchase – because it desperately needs something to wear. Specifically, something that will protect it when I inevitably drop it seven times per month. But sadly, ”find an iPad case” is #23 on my list of things to do this month, right above “learn how to french braid my own hair” and “decide if I should hire a surrogate to gestate our babies,” and right after “finally write a blog post that doesn’t include any references to sex or the organs involved in said act” and “plan that wedding we’re having.” Soooo. Might you guys have any iPad case suggestions? I’m not gonna be a picky little whore about the case we choose. I just wanna find one that’s got the right amount of awesomeness to it. Important: good protection, and cool looking. You know, the essentials. Also, if you happen to have suggestions for cool things to get or download that work well with the iPad, I’m all ears.
NO NEON IPAD CASES. Almost forgot to say that. Honey draws the line at neon tampons. But just so you know; I didn’t ask Kotex to make my period trendy. They took it upon themselves to do that.
Ok, let’s move into the meat of today’s post.
Which reminds me: we are not talking about schlongs today on the blog. You dirty little hos. So once you’ve recovered from the disappointment, read on to discover the type of “size” we are discussing today. Oh and, ahhem, if you would actually like me to write a legit blog post on the topic of schlong size in the near future to make up for this deceit, then by all means, do let me know. Because I am very capable of that. Naturally, I just need a little egging on.
Ok, so here’s what’s up. When I first imagined my wedding, I imagined it to be like 20 people. I’m not going to psychoanalyze why I did, I just did. And then of course other elements came into play, and it grew (both in reality and in terms of what I thought I wanted) from 20, to 120. And THEN, we spent a lot of time soul searching and assessing and talking and not talking and fighting and completely ignoring the whole thing for a month and then starting to revisit the issue again, freaking out more, talking more and bedroom wrestling (to get our minds off of it) and then even more thinking… and then after all of that, it settled in the middle of those two extremes. And that’s when I was like… “hmm, have I actually been to any 75 person weddings? How do they work? How do I deal with cutting down the guest list? Who gets to come? Is this selfish?” There were a lot of questions swirling.
Fortunately, I’ve never felt alone in this, because one of the most common reader questions TKB receives for the Dear TKB column (aside from the uber-popular in-law and bridesmaid-related questions) concerns the topic of wedding size; more specifically: whether it’s ok to want a wedding that’s on the smaller side, when everyone else involved would like the opposite. Which they tend to do.
Here’s my answer: do. whatever. the f**k. you want. to do. for chrissakes. DO NOT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR OTHER PEOPLE. I shouldn’t have to repeat myself about this, ladies and gentlemen. ONLY EXCEPTIONS TO THIS RULE:
1. You should probably entertain the wishes of those people who mean a lot to you, but only a couple of those wishes, and only if they are reasonable/do not compromise you and your partner’s happiness.
2. If the person who wants you to have a larger wedding is footing the entire bill. But then you should ask yourself, should we even take this offer of a free wedding if it’s not at all what we want/imagine our wedding to be?
Now, I’m curious… actually wait, sorry–
IMPROMPTU STARING CONTEST
Sorry about that. Where were we…
Oh yes, yes. I was going to ask you what YOU think when it comes to smaller vs. larger weddings. Do you think it’s important to invite every last person everyone in your family wants to invite? Or do you think it’s more important to have the wedding you and your partner want (whether or not that means a smaller wedding)? I can’t wait to hear your answers!!! I am not being hyperbolic – I am actually looking for a touch of advice, too. :)
So hey guess what? It just so happens that Caroline + Jayden Lee of Woodnote Photography submitted a shoot recently that totally speaks to this situation/dilemma we’re addressing today. So perfect! :) Read on for the concept that sets the tone for the kind of wedding inspiration you’re about to swallow whole (did that sound selacious? this time it was not the intent):
Kristopher and Penelope chose to have their special day on Penelope’s family alpaca farm. Having grown up surrounded by the peaceful animals, the space had become very special to her, and had also been the spot that Kris had proposed. Taking the alpacas as an inspiration, the couple decided to include Peruvian influence in the style of their day. Rather than having a traditional wedding ceremony, Kristopher + Penelope chose to get married in a court house, and then have an intimate commitment ceremony in front of their closest friends and family. The ceremony did not have an officiant; instead, the couple shared simple vows that they had written to one other. For the reception, bright colors paired with rustic elements presented on one long banquet table unified the guests and allowed for one shared celebration. After dinner, the couple changed into evening attire, and mingled with their guests as they ate cake and petted the lovely alpacas until sunset. The day was nontraditional, and nothing short of perfect.
(Bambino McPuppypants had just farted when that picture was taken; that’s why he’s smiling.)
Bonus video: if you have the time, check out this *Behind the Scenes* film of the shoot, which boasts a hefty dose of premium quality alpaca footage. :)
I can honestly say that I have never seen this many alpacas in my life. That’s a personal best right there; safe to say for all of us, I presume?
… Excuse me while I go check that off my bucket list.
Ok, so… how was the blog post? On a scale of 1 to 10, was it deeply scarring?
More seriously: When it comes to your wedding, what do you prefer: lots and lots of people around to celebrate your day? or a smaller, more intimate affair? Or some other alternative that I’m too mentally drained to conjure right now?
Looking forward to getting a discussion going.
xoxo! - Alison
Photography: Caroline + Jayden Lee of Woodnote Photography / Videography: Robert Ingraham / Florist: Bloom Floral and Event Design / Prop Rentals: A La Crate Vintage / Venue: Silver Creek Alpaca Farm / Hair & Makeup: Melody Sopa + Tiffany Arnold / Dresses: Monirose Bespoke Gowns / Graphic Design: Dena Swenson Design / Cake: Cakes by Jennifer / Models: Forest + Elena / Submitted via Two Bright Lights