Happy late Tuesday evening, faces. I truly believe we’ll see eye to eye on this.
Ok, so here’s the thing. I’m hard at work on the ol’ recap of last night’s balls to the wall episode of The Bachelor right now (o.O) and I’ve gotta say… it’s getting to me. It’s getting to me in a new way, in addition to all the ways it has gotten to me. It’s getting to me how very misguided so many of these young ladies are this season. Misguided about love; what it means, and how to know you’re there. Misguided about finding “The One” and what that means, and how doing death-defying stunts together does not a lifelong connection forge. Misguided about getting married, and what it means. Misguided about life, in general. About how to treat people. About the fact that trying to edge out a new contestant is useless, because you can’t *win* this. You can’t *win* hearts. You can’t *beat* the other girls. A bunch of ladies on this show – and in the world – think this is possible.
And I see that and I’m like, What? WHAT? Really? If a man feels a connection with a woman, a man feels a connection with a woman. It’s not about winning. It CAN’T be. And if it is? If you can *win* a competition for his heart by down-talking your competitor, or bringing her self-esteem down? If that somehow changes his mind about that girl? Guess what. He hasn’t figured out what he’s doing on this earth yet. He’s probably at the same point in the process of self-discovery as you are. He is not ready for love, for a relationship, for anything other than self-discovery.
Whatever. The point is, I’ve been needing a reality check. A break from recapping this EPIC episode of EPIC EPICNESS. I needed to look at, and to feel within, something that was real. Something that was born of a lifetime of love, togetherness, soulfulness and real connection.
Something that spoke to me, and delivered me from the depths of the emotionally immature.
Anyway so cool news: I totally f**king fouuuund that s**t! Vic Pellicier Photography submitted it, and I’m sharing it with you right now as somewhat of a palate cleanser before I deliver this insaneballs Bachelor recap that’s been humping my brain all day.
I got chills. They multiplyin’.
Now to bring you back to level-headedness today, there is also this:
Dancing and crying – two of my favorite things it turns out!
What gives you chills? What are your favorite moments, wedding-wise or life-wise? Have you found love? What makes you know it? I’d love to hear what’s important to you.
For those of you who care: the Knotty Bachelor recap is in progress, friendlies. I thank you for your patience. This one was…… special. It was a special episode. Very, very special.
xoxo! - Alison
Photography: Vic Pellicier Photography